Who are we? Where do we come from? What does it mean to be part of a community? I’m now 40-years-old and well into my life with two kids, now two step-kids, a war veteran, a widower, now starting my second marriage and I still ask these questions of myself. I’ve grown even more curious about who I came from. I’m a six-foot-two, protestant-raised, anglo-saxon white guy raised in the 80s/90s San Fernando Valley, Los Angeles with the last name Ham but I am also third generation Armenian. I have not been one to identify as an Armenian throughout my life; I didn’t grow up with Armenians, I don’t speak the language, my last name doesn’t end with an “ian” or “yan” and I’ve lived very much outside the culture. I think the story that has kept me curious and tied me to my lineage the most is that of my great-grandmother Adrian Gurganian.
Read MoreSummer is almost over and the children will be heading back to school soon. Life almost seems like it’s back to some semblance of normalcy, yet grief always lingers like a dark shadow that looms in the background. Our family is now almost a year and a half removed from my late-wife’s departure from this earth and the further we get it seems the more capable we are to cope but we still have our bad days. It’s also been a year since we released my feature documentary Made With Melanie and in this post I’d like to share some of my thoughts, feelings and observations about it. Additionally I was fortunate enough to give the keynote speech at this years Pat Tillman Foundation Leadership Summit in Chicago. Take a watch below to hear some of my story, why I became a filmmaker and share what happened to Melanie and the film about her. Read to the end of the blog for some big personal news!
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